Winter Came, Did You?
By: Jacquetta Szathmari
How to change the climate on bedtime fun with temperature play and sensation gels.
Mother nature is having fun with the temperature and so should you. Even in wintertime, the temperature can vary wildly from one day to the next. Whether you like it hot, cold, tingling, or all three we have some easy-to-implement suggestions for changing the climate of your foreplay.
What is temperature play?
Temperature play incorporates hot and cold sensations into foreplay and intercourse to heighten sensitivity and enhance sexual pleasure. It can be as simple as warming or cooling your hands before a massage or as elaborate as working your magic with dripping wax, a chilled personal wand, and a blindfold.
If you are new to this type of foreplay, start slow. As always, communication is key, so make sure you discuss your intentions with your partner and establish preferences around experiencing heat, cold, and tingling. While temperature play may involve a balance of anticipation and surprise you probably don’t want to completely shock them, (unless you have both agreed upon that as a technique). Not sure what your preferences are? The best way to find out is through gentle experimentation. We have some things that you can easily slide into your sexy pre-game activities for both you and your partner’s delight.
It’s getting hot in here.
Let’s start by turning up the heat. Warmth increases circulation and blood flow which can heighten sensitivity. If you are familiar with your partner’s reactions to intimate touch at room temperature, with room temperature accessories, then heat will up the ante. Our warming oils are made for foreplay and oral pleasure. They even have a subtle pleasant flavor without the bitter aftertaste often associated with edible sexy products.
These water-based “oils” will not degrade latex so feel free to use them with condoms or dental dams – and the clean-up is easy. All of our warming oils are vegan, sugar-free, and paraben-free, as well. Their main ingredient is vegan glycerin. Made from vegetable fats such as coconut or soy, glycerin is environmentally friendly and dissolves easily in water. A common ingredient in many body products, including cleansers, facial masks, moisturizers, and products formulated for babies, the glycerin creates a “blanket” on the skin, trapping body warmth away from the cooler air, and creating a gentle warming sensation, that can be easily washed (or licked!) off, for a quick temperature switch-up.
(We even added glow-in-the-dark stripes on the bottle just in case you’re doing it in the dark.)
Test your flavor of warming gel on clean hands before applying it to the body. Put a small amount on your inner wrist (or your partner’s), rub it in slightly, and then blow on it. Feel that gentle heat? Now you have an idea of how the products works and the level of sensation.
Time to get down to business.
Follow the steps: Rub. Blow. Lick. Repeat. Keeping in mind that the hand is far less sensitive than more popular intimate massage destinations, wherever you apply the gel- and all erogenous zones are permitted – a sensation is guaranteed. The mix between warmth, cool air, and a wet mouth is sure to get your partner into a fever.
Cool it Now
Cold can also be arousing, but in a different way. We are all familiar with the effect that cold can have on nipples. Imagine that in a cute little container, with delicious flavor thrown in, and you have our cooling arousal gels. These vegan, paraben-free gels have an intense (no joke) cooling effect and are formulated for external use only. Try a tiny amount on the tongue first to get a sense of the strength before applying to intimate areas, and get ready for a rapid response! A little drop will do ya, so start small. (You can always reapply later.) Level up by alternating in open kisses from a mouth warmed with a cup of hot tea. The switch from cold to hot sensations might necessitate adding time in-between for recovery – if you want the foreplay to last. Temperature play is powerful stuff.
Ready to Tingle?
Tingling is another thing altogether, a sensual mix of warmth and cold accompanied by a gentle throbbing that turns you into a sexy little electric plant. Recover the lost art of the living room couch, or back seat (we see you), make out session, and apply our latest flavored Hot Kiss Lip Gel. Cover your partner with steamy, coconut flavored kisses, that turn cool and then begin to buzz. (Full disclosure: some of us just put it on for fun. It feels great on the lips and gets you in the mood, wherever you are.)
Add some accessories.
Want to try some other easy-to-execute temperature play options? Try warming up your favorite toys according to the manufacturer's instructions. Glass dildos and plugs work great for this. You can warm your toy up in a glass of hot water or cool it down by putting it in the freezer for 5 minutes, or in a glass of ice water. Glide your toy over your partner’s body, or throw in a blindfold and try touching unexpected areas. This should lead to a lot of giggling, squealing, and moaning.
Don’t have any toys you can warm or cool? No problem. If you have a freezer and an ice tray, you are all set. Take out an ice cube and get creative. You can run it over the body from head to toe or use it to chill your hands, mouth, or any other sexy bits before intimacy. Plan ahead and you can mold an ice cube into a shape that will drive you and your partner wild.
Have fun with it!
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Jacquetta Szathmari is a New York based writer and the founder of Dernier Mile, a boutique consultancy providing last minute and last mile solutions for your content-intensive, logistically complex, and totally unique creative projects.
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